Am i gay or are men just gross
Liberating Motherhood
This is an updated version of one of my most popular posts. I hope you care for the new version!
I’ve had a lot of shocking experiences in my perform as a feminist author. I’ve argued before that violence against women is effectively legal, that intimate relationships are the solo biggest public health threat women face, and that in this hyper-violent patriarchal culture, it’s simply rational for women to terror all men.
I’d favor to think nothing men do can surprise me.
Still, I never consideration I’d hear the expression “poop flakes” in the same sentence with “69.” I certainly never idea poop flakes would develop a recurring topic of conversation with readers.
Activism takes us to amusing places. To shitty places, too.
In the personal support group I dash , a woman recently joint the story of her husband going about a month without showering, but still expecting her to have sex with him. And that opened the floodgates of male disgustingness.
“My ex didn’t shower and never washed his ass. He insisted on sleeping in the nude and his sheets always had stains on them.
One moment he wanted to 69 and there were literal poo flakes near his balls,” one reader told
I am a lesbian in love with a guy... is that possible ?
Hi Krista, and thanks for your question.
Love is without borders! It transcends genders if we allow it to. If you perceive such tremendous love for this guy, there is nothing wrong with that. There are all types of love between all types of people. I know some girls who identify as lesbians but on occasion, do doze with or date men. They choose to cite to themselves as sapphic and not bisexual because they ‘prefer’ women, but sometimes we can’t select who we fall in love with. If it turns out to be a man, so be it!
Ask yourself what are the qualities you try in a person in terms of building a romantic or intimate connection. Can these questions be answered with ‘man’ or ‘woman’? If so, what about a woman or a man makes you want or not long to be with them? Are these qualities that make you sexually attracted to the person? Sexual attraction is a whole other issue. You can love someone with all your heart, but if you can’t find a physical attraction to them, it won’t work in the long run. If you feel you would be able to nap with this guy and find him attractive, I
I’ve identified as homosexual for years. Not anymore.
Lady Gaga’s “Born This Way” is a bop — it topped charts in 25 countries and became one of the best-selling singles of all time. It’s also a monumental LGBTQ anthem in which Gaga embraces her bisexuality and affirms other LGBTQ identities, singing “I’m lovely in my way / ‘Cause God makes no mistakes / I’m on the right road, baby I was born this way.”
“Born This Way” also came out around the same day I did, at least to myself. I had a crush on Christian, a charming male child in my grade with mischievous eyes and a perpetual smirk. Then it was Jackson, the nerd-jock crossover of my wildest dreams. Then it was Joseph, a lad in my choir class who kissed me a rare weeks before eighth grade ended.
Those boys made me perceive that I was queer. It was not something I thought much about before middle college. Bullies teased me for being queer when I was younger, but when a six-year-old male child calls another six-year-old boy gay, he means “weird” or “gross,” not “has sex with men.” Sure, it wasn’t a very kind thing for that boy to speak, but it didn’t make me interrogate my sexuality or think about my romantic and sexual attractions, because intimate and
Recentlyafriend expressed how much it bothers her when lgbtq+ men go on about "how gross vaginas are." She feels it's a betrayal of the unspoken alliance between gay men and straight ladies.
I thought about how it bothers me too, but for different reasons. It bothers me because this hypothetical grossed-out gay isn't actually grossed out. He's behaving as he is expected to behave in that particular social circle. He squeals and says, "Gurrrrrl," and everyone laughs. Oh, the gays are so funny! They dislike vaginas!
After some discussion about where such a reaction stems from, my companion and I came up with a (probably questionable) theory. Many of us gay men were quite mistreated during our formative years, so we learned social tricks to obtain peers to like us or, at the very least, not slam us into the lockers. If we were sexless and funny, it was less threatening to the bullies. Our gayness wasn't so much about loving penises; it was about existence revolted by vaginas.
I perceive I may be overthinking this issue, but it led me to show on the unfortunate things we gay men perform to guard ourselves. As a young man I buried myself deep in fundamentalist Christianity; that was my prote
Why does male sexuality seem so repulsive to me? Am I just too feminist?
(Anonymous’ question continued) Especially, when I consider anal sex (Sexual activity involving the anus. Anal sex may enclose stimulation with fingers, the mouth, a penis, sex toys, or other objects or body parts.) because, well, why would they crave to do that, other than grow their own pleasure. The problem is, I actually relax anal, I just… these days, I hate the notion of letting anyone have it.
So, basically I’m being ridiculously immature about men. I’m being sexist myself, perhaps. But honestly, in your perspective, are men capable of having sexual (About or relating in some way to sex or sexuality.) feelings driven by love, can men be kind, can I have faith men, why are so many men violent to women (is it just natural? I mean… should we just accept that conduct as a male trait?), how act I stop feeling sick about men being pleasured, will this go away when I detect someone I actually love, etc etc etc.
Oh, and this all coincides with a strange crush on one of my best girl friends; it’s like I’m forcing myself to be lesbian (Describes the sexual orientation of a gal who is sexual