Why does the media obsess over who is gay
by Fred Penzel, PhD
This article was initially published in the Winter 2007 edition of the OCD Newsletter.
OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing serious and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A 1998 learn published in the Journal of Sex Research create that among a team of 171 college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. 1998). In order to possess doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer desire not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in new children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., 1989, found that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden offensive or perverse sexual thoughts.
Although doubts about one’s have sexual identity might appear pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious establish is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they might be of a different sexual orientation than they formerly believed. If the su
By Barrett White
So, who is the man and who is the woman?
We’re both males. We’re partners. We share duties and don’t subscribe to traditional gender roles. At least, that’s how it is in my own relationship. And here we are, six years together, and people still believe it’s okay to ask me if my partner or I shapeshift into a lady behind closed doors, as if the notion that two people of the same gender can exist together and share their lives, love, household chores, and career workload equally is somehow as tough to grasp as hieroglyphs.
Okay, I’m being cynical. I know that’s not what they mean, but I digress—why do people think it’s okay to ask that of me, or of any other queer person in a same-sex relationship? My boyfriend, the goofball that he is, offers this: “Next time [they ask], just be like, ‘we don’t have sex, we just absorb each other’s force like photosynthesis.’”
I consulted with Carolyn Hendrix, a LCSW-supervisor in Houston. “I can’t speak for why anyone does anything, but from a theoretical perspective, it comes from a instinct of otherness,” Hendrix says.“For someone who doesn’t name with queer culture or the trans and gender-diverse com
Why are straight people obsessed with homosexuality? Seriously...
Oh bugger, am about to procure in big twubble.
From living in one of the largest metropolis in the world, New York Urban area, for nearly a decade and another decade in San Francisco, have met, befriended, hired/fired, worked with sexually active people in all forms -and by all forms mean all forms. You name the sexual preference, I probably have known a person who has it.
With the case of generalized homo-sexuality, male-male, femme-femme, trans-male, trans-femme versus straight-sexuality, the issue always is the same, among the unbiased at least: sexuality is a private matter. So, when pushed by socio-economic, socio-political, socio-theological means, the normal straight person feels violated in their right of privacy and to not have to be a viewer of anothers sexual preference.
Honestly, I believe that is the real issue. It isn't sexual-phobia for them, it is the feeling of, "Keep your sexuality to yourself". Because, generally, by bringing sexuality into the public eye one is infringing on the rights of another and imposing their perspective regardless of anothers perspective or decision.
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Why Do Gay Men Idolize Female Pop Stars?
Pop culture is the gay religion and pop stars are our goddesses…
By Bobby Box
Every queer has his legend, and I am no different. Mine? Victoria Beckham, the fashion-savvy Spice Lady with resting bitch face and the fewest verses on any of the girl group’s iconic, coming-of-age tracks. Whenever she’d seductively signal her finger at the camera – her signature shift – I’d squeal. Truth be told, Posh was my first crush, and when she married David Beckham I was genuinely offend, because I loved her. I even followed her devastatingly short-lived and substandard solo music career.
To idolize a female pop star is nothing new for queer-identifying men. Cher, Madonna, Ariana, Taylor, Gaga, Kylie – you name her and she’s got legions of hard-stanning homosexuals who’ve assembled shrines immortalizing her in their bachelor apartments. Admittedly, I am not as hard of a “stan” as others. Since Posh, I haven’t experienced the same level of hopeless devotion towards a pop musician. But, fortunately for me, I’ve got Gay Twitter to consult – and its users never disappoint.
“Gay men employ women as avatars for themselves,” one Twitter user said, and this per
The recent Unbelievable? Dwell show on sexuality, gender and individuality was a very good evening. Justin Brierley interviewed Andrew Bunt and Charlie Bell on one of the burning issues of the day. Is a practising, gay lifestyle compatible with biblical teaching?
I thought the tone and the content were superior. Justin was gracious, as always, and both Andrew and Charlie debated in a warm and civil manner. It was wonderful to behold.
I wanted to raise some questions but I decided it would take too drawn-out to explain my interest in Epicurus (341-270 BC) and Aristippus (435-356 BC). Am I a sad loser? Probably.
I am not talking here about ancient Greek footballers but influential Greek philosophers. Today we are witnessing a revival of the Epicurean way of experience and it illuminates all discussions about sex and how we understand sexuality. Scholars like NT Wright and Catherine Wilson are helping us to perceive the pervasive Epicurean worldview.
Here is my brief, pithy outline of these two influential boffins: Epicurus and Aristippus. Kind their worldviews can help us ponder about sex.
Epicurus
While Epicureanism today is often understood to cite to a person’s refined