Is there any hope for a a short gay guy

by D’Ann Davis

“How perform I help my gay friend?”  This is a scrutinize we hear constantly in the Living Hope office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago limited Christians asked this question, for several knew any identical gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were illiterate to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as gay or deals with a measure of alike gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of life where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this interrogate is of utmost importance in pale of the modify of our identity and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly converse about their issues.  So how does one help a gay-identified friend or SGA friend?

The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend grasp Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attempting to serve a friend deal with her sexual attractions.  This is because there are two different rou

I'm a Gay Guy, but There's This Lady.

Identity can be such an obnoxious creature sometimes. Just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out⁠ (Short for ‘out of the closet’. When someone’s Gay identity is known to other people.), some modern evidence pops up and you have to rethink things. And I don’t need to tell you how frustrating that move can be, because you’re in the middle of it. It can be doubly trying if you’ve already had to strife to accept that initial identity⁠ (The defining ethics or personality of an individual; who we experience like we are as a person.). All signs pointed to gay⁠ (A man who is attracted to other men, or a person of any sex or gender who is sexually and emotionally attracted to people of the same or a similar sex or gender. Often used alongside lesbian.), until suddenly a unused sign lit up flashing⁠ (A person, often (but not always) nonconsensually, displaying their genitals to others in public. Cyberflashing is the digital version of this, like sending unwanted sexual images to someone on their phone.) “BUTMAYBENOT!?” in big, neon letters. And now you’re trying to work out which signs you should believe.

The bad news is, I c

How Should Christians Respond to Gay Friends or Family Members?

Caleb Kaltenbach (M.A. ’07) is an alumnus of Biola’s Talbot School of Theology, lead pastor of a large church in Simi Valley, Calif., and a married father of two. He’s also an emerging voice in the discussion of how Christians should engage the LGBT community. That’s because Kaltenbach has an insider perspective, having been raised by a dad and mom who divorced and independently came out of the closet as a homosexual man and a female homosexual. Raised in the midst of LGBT parties and pride parades, Kaltenbach became a Christian and a pastor as a little adult. Today, he manages the tension of holding to the traditional biblical teaching on sexuality while loving his gay parents.

Kaltenbach’s unique story is detailed in his new guide Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction and landed him on the front page of the New York Times in June. Biola Magazine reached out to him to talk about his guide and his perspective on how Christians can superior navigate the complexities of this issue with correctness and grace.

In your guide you say that it’s time for Christians to own the issu

Theda Hammel on Lgbtq+ Guy Purgatory and the Perils of Tap-To-Pay

Photo courtesy of Theda Hammel.

Last week, I had the most wonderful conversation with Theda Hammel, the filmmaker, performer, and longtime NYMPHOWARSco-host whose new movie, Stress Positions, debuts at Sundance Production Festival this week. I was so struck by this one sequence in particular, towards the end of the film, an image that so perfectly captures all the ironies and hypocrisies of the Energy Island-going subset of what scholars often call “gay guy world,” that I think it truly belongs in the archive. I don’t know which archive, but definitely one of them.

Unfortunately, right after we got off the mobile, Hammel realized that basically everything we’d talked about over the course of our discussion takes place during the film’s climactic last act, meaning that the interview would entirely spoil the movie for anyone who read it. We ended up scheduling a redo, which thankfully yielded an even more wonderful conversation than the first.

A comedy of manners put during the preliminary months of COVID lockdown, Stress Positions stars Hammel herself alongside comedians John Early and Amy Zimmer, as adv as newcomer mo

I recently spoke with Bonnie Kaye, author of Unbent Wives, Shattered Lives: Stories of Women with Queer Husbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wives Discuss Show on BlogTalkRadio. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first living with and attempting to love a same-sex attracted husband and then helping other women in the same mis-marriage situation. (“Mis-marriage” is Bonnie’s term for “mistake in marriage.” Other people sometimes refer to these relationships using the term “mixed marriage.”)

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Because I know countless queer men who were once married to straight women, with varying degrees of short and longer-term happiness and misery, I wanted to discuss this topic, and I wanted to do so from the straight wives’ perspective. Who better to speak with about this than Bonnie Kaye? Our discussion was wide-ranging, beginning with her own marriage to a gay man and moving forward to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually becoming a rock for other women in similar situations.

In this post, I have presented part one of this discussion, the story of Bonnie’s marriage and breakup. I will post part two, the aftermath, in a few weeks.

Bonnie,