Do straight guys like attention from gay guys
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to rally homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they found it erotic to watch two straight men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men kiss. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by unbent men? Some even choose straight men over queer men!
Before I get readers insisting that not all gay men are attracted to straight men, grant me say I recognize that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to admit that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue straight men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In fact, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male -- that every gay human is going to desire to hit on him -- gay men include silenced themselves on this topic
When you are growing up a future gay, you grasp very quickly that your relationships with straight men are never going to be anything other than complex.
Whether you're trying to illustrate to your dad for the eightieth time that you're not going to kick that football back at him no matter how many times it flies over your head, or enduring the weekly terror of "Backs against the wall, lads" in the showers after PE, it can be complex to make yourself understood. So alike, but oceans apart.
In less enlightened times, when I was much younger and even more socially awkward, I clearly remember almost dreading being introduced to straight men in case they mocked me or disliked me, preferring instead to make a beeline for their girlfriends, sisters or mothers. There's also the added misery of emotionally crippling crushes on these men, the ultimate in the unobtainable, or not daring to catch someone's eye in the gym changing rooms - the PE nightmare does not end with your last GCSE - in case they thought you were checking out their pecker. Almost never, boys. Almost never.
But now, everyone has chilled out a bit - at least in my little bubble of existence, anyway - and I can'
What do straight guys really think about guys who are gay?
gman_AK1
I recently accepted that I am gay. It has been rough for a variety of reasons, including fear that straight guys will think I am a freak. I wonder what straight guys really think about gay guys. Do you wonder why the hell we aren’t attracted to women? Act you think we turned our wrong? Do you find us disgusting? If I promise you it won’t hurt my feelings, do you guys experience comfortable telling me what you really think of guys who are gay?
DrDeth2
Just another person, to be judged by their behavior. Same with trans ect.
Like I have said- I don’t care which restroom you use- just wash your hands!
Here on this board you will generally find us welcoming.
Unless you’re a trump supporter.
Roderick_Femm3
I recently accepted that I am gay.
Congratulations. It took me a long period to come to terms with my own sexuality.
I think you’ll find that “straight men” is not a monolithic group with uniform reactions. Some will react as you avoid they might, others will have no particular reaction, still others will be just as curious about you as you are about them. It may help to remember some rea
Like many men of my generation, I learned that any attraction to unbent men was to be kept secret. We were lucky to be acknowledged (even sort of) by heterosexual guys and so we were careful to behave ourselves so as not to offend them. Keeping gestures of love contained, being careful about eye contact, and minimizing hugs (no kisses, please) was the rule. We have always known the danger of even normal displays of affection, such as alienation, rejection, entity shamed. And, hell, the possibility of being lost up by some closed-minded guy wasn’t out of the question, either. The lesson? Being connected to straight men has always been contingent on keeping everything in close inspect … well, until recently.
The once-rigid lines of masculinity have softened to allow for much greater variety in appearance and self-expression for all men. The differences between homosexual and straight men are much harder to discern these days, including in the ways that care is shown. It simply doesn’t matter so much who is gay and who isn’t (in most quarters), and hanging out with gay men when you are straight is no big deal.
At a recent gay wedding of two millennials, I was stumped by the gues
10 Reasons Gays Track Straights
We've all done it, and some of us act it over and over again. What leads lesbian and gay grown-ups to abandon reason and pursue the sexually unobtainable?
1 EVERYONE IS STRAIGHT To paraphrase Harvey Fierstein in Torch Song Trilogy, we live in a world where every movie, every TV show, and every billboard tells us we're unbent. Heck, even the flagrantly homoerotic Abercrombie & Fitch ads toss in a bikini-clad woman for every 10 buff shiftless dudes, lest we think the fellas aren't hankering for female companionship. With such a thick coat of heterosexual whitewash splashed over every sexual image, it takes a powerfully gender non-conforming imagination--and sometimes many nights at Insane Nanny's or the Spike, or years in therapy--to construct an object of desire that's truly our own, fully hetero-free.
Every time some gossip rag talks about how "no man can resist" J. Lo's derriere or how "women everywhere" are swooning over Ashton Kutcher, it's a reminder that for a shocking number of people in this culture, gay people just don't endure. Who else are we supposed to find attractive when we're living in a gay-free zone?
2 EVERYONE CAN BE HAD Straight