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Exploring your sexuality is a healthy part of adult development. However, if being attracted to or hooking up with transgender women is unused to you, you may be wondering what this means for your sexuality.

You may feel ashamed of your attraction, be questioning if you are homosexual or bisexual, or be worried how other people might perceive you.

“My sexuality developed during my teenage years and I just thoughtful of found that there’s a giant place in my heart for transgender women.” – James

Many men are attracted to or spend time trans women. Some men are attracted to:

• A range of women, including transsexual women
• Exclusively trans women
• Femininity or feminine qualities
• A range of alternative gender identities
• People of all genders.

Some men are happy to identify with particular labels, such as straight, queer, pansexual or pansexual. For other men those labels don’t fit or aren’t crucial to them. How you identify or who you are attracted to can also change over time.

The only person who can characterize your sexuality is you. What’s significant is that you are comfortable with yourself and that you treat your partners with respect.

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Who can use the pos “queer” in a virtual dating profile? The best term for me is gynophilic. I’m attracted to femininity main. That means I’ve dated some transwomen who still had male genitalia. I accept them as women, so I had no problem with the penises. Good times were still had. Can I name myself queer for that? If I do, I’m guessing that I would get more interest in online dating from transfolk or people who think about “queer” a selling point.

If I called myself gender non-conforming, I’m guessing more poly/kinky folks (like me) would be interested. It would also get rid of homophobes who otherwise would be interested. Now, intersect that with the usual “am I queer enough” problem.

Am I queer enough because I play with penises on trans women? I’d say I’m at least queer adjacent. But others would say no, that I cannot apply “queer” unless I meet men.

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Ask Matt: Can a Homosexual Man Love a Transsexual Woman?

By Matt Kailey

A reader writes:

“I am a same-sex attracted man and have no doubts really about that. I was late in coming out after creature married and having children. However, 15 months ago I started a bond with a guy who I had met several years earlier and who also was previously married with children.

“After we had been dating for six or seven months, he started to talk about how he really liked dressing as a teen and felt he should have been born a girl. I did realize he was always quite fem and liked fem things and that was part of my attraction to him.

“Well, now he is well into transition to her, including specify change and hormone treatments, and is fully out to family and operate. I have supported this transition because I loved/love him/her and know that it was making her happy and it was what she wanted.

“Now, though, I am having a real problem in my head as to how can it be that a gay guy is still fancying a young woman. Is it an individuality issue? What is going on in my mind? Can this relationship continue?

“We have talked about surgery and I have said I would not favor her to have reassignment and she says that she doesn’t want it anyway. H

Educate Yourself: Do’s and Don’ts for Dating Trans Women

Since writing “Trans Women and the Cishet Men Who Love Us,” I’ve received many messages from trans-attracted cisgender heterosexual (cishet) men expressing how they have a truthful interest and longing to date a trans woman but simply lack the know-how. I’m not referring to the guys who simply look at us as a obsession but rather those men who truly have a longing to date us romantically. They exist! A lot of the messages I received express how, when they launch a conversation with a trans chick, they feel as though they are vilified and given the title of a “chaser.” I got a instinct that they touch as though they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. Which seemed pretty ironic to me since I had been on the other side of their passionate pursuits in the past. The feeling I was often left with from dating was frustration, until I met my current significant other a year ago (who is a cishet man).

There is nothing more that I yearn to see than fulfilling and authentic relationships for my fellow trans gal, so I idea it wouldn’t wound to put together some thoughts to help bridge the gap between cishet men and their desired trans p

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Alphonso David, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation President, noted that in the United States, “at least 37 transgender and gender non-conforming people were victims of fatal violence” in 2020—far more than has been recorded in previous years. But anti-trans violence is not just physical but also psychological, a symptom of the transphobia that is prevalent in our society.

The subtlety of this negativity is manifested in a variety of ways, including during interpersonal interactions—such as our willingness to date a trans person. Who we date (or don't date) can be tainted by our susceptibility to societal attitudes. “One such attitude that may be restricting the roll call of those we consider acceptable dating partners may be cisgenderism… the ideology that views cisgender identities as natural and normal, thereby delegitimizing trans identities and expressions.”

Researchers Karen Blair and Rhea Hoskin (2019) addressed the dating preferences of nearly a thousand online participants with the scrutinize, “Who would you contemplate dating?” Options were cisgender man, cisgender woman, transgender man, trans woman, and gender queert